My thoughts on the term for "The One That Got Away"

Not the best first post for a new blog but it is what is on my mind… The one who got away, what a crappy term. I have such a big problem with this statement. I mean if they were “the one” why would they “get away”? Sure I believe in true love and all but how fair is to think no one will be as good as your first, or as the one you let leave. It feel apart for a reason, whether it was mutual or one sided (yes one sided will hurt one party more than the other but it is a commitment if one isn't in it 100% then the other who put it all in will of course feel worse off but really they aren't because why be with someone who feels you aren't the one or they are stuck on the one who got away in the past.) any way… How fair would it be for me to think “oh my first kiss back when I was 14 was the one. I can’t get hooked in my past and neglect my present. How can you truly be in a relationship when you are hung up on your ex? If you truly want to be a good partner you need to let your past go. Yes learn, live, remember ect… but you can’t think “I will never have love like that again” How fair is that to you partner in life? I know I wouldn't want to be with someone who thinks they already had the best they ever will. Frankly that would suck. A partnership is about equality. If you gave your heart/feelings to someone wouldn't you want something in return? Would you hope for the same feelings or would you want less than you gave?